Kids and their space

Do kids need their own space? That is a very common question and according to pediatric professionals and psychologists says that a private bedroom may help some children develop independent living and autonomous coping skills, parents would be wise to observe their children, talk with their children, and do some informal experimentation to try to address what kind of living circumstances would best match their child’s personality and developmental needs.

A toddler, for example, will not appreciate an older brother’s need to protect the personal nature of some possessions – perhaps a treasured toy or game – that reinforces his sense of who he is and what he likes.

Navigate those waters, though, and children can learn plenty, including “dorm skills” that make the transition to college life easier, says pediatric and family psychologist Peter Goldenthal, author of “Beyond Sibling Rivalry.” Parents should allow children to personalize their part of the room with bulletin boards and posters, and perhaps use decorative curtains, activity tables or portable partitions to create some semblance of privacy.
For some families, the need for a home office is driving the decision. According to a 2005 survey by the American Institute of Architects, nearly half of the 600 architectural firms that were polled said demand for home offices was rising. And where the office goes in, the children often go out.
Kerry Stout’s two boys doubled up in their three-bedroom Long Beach tract house because she wanted a home office. The sharing seemed like it would be easy because Jack, 9, and Luke, 7, have fun together. Too much fun, it turned out.
As you can see even if children have to share a room, it’s important to develop certain skills that will help in the future, to have some privacy or the feeling that certain object belongs only to them and they can share if they want, that will help you raise a better child